Welcome to The Question, where you’ll get answers about life at Brown all year long! I’m Celina Stewart, and I’ll be bringing you insights (and photos!) into my fourth year at Brown and my answers to some of the questions I wish I’d asked before college.
I just purchased tickets to visit one of my best friends at Princeton, and realized that I’ve never addressed a huge part of coming to college on this blog: leaving your friends from home behind! Honestly, those final goodbyes can be incredibly sad, filled with anxiety and promises to keep up. Fortunately, you’ll be busy enough with orientation activities and mandatory friend-building freshman bonding activities that your anxiety will disappear. But this still begs the question, how easy is it to keep up with friends from home?
Truth is, you won’t keep up with your friends from home as frequently as you’d like, especially when you’re still transitioning to making close friends at Brown. Sure, you may continue talking every day in a couple texts or Facebook chats during that one particularly boring class, but over time, you’ll both get busy and forget to answer a text or miss a phone call (seriously, phone calls become a thing!).
The good part of this is, you’ll really think about who you want to stay friends with, and then try that much harder to maintain those friendships. Plus, some of your friends who you may not have been close to may become closer friends! The good news is that you’ll be able to find time to Skype, FaceTime, video chat, and keep up in a ton of other ways (and you’ll be surprised where you see people doing this- walking into the SciLi basement and seeing someone on Skype isn’t all that uncommon!).
Of course, this will change as you go through your time at Brown and get busier or grow apart from those people you weren’t necessarily close to at home anyway. If you are able to visit home during holidays, you’ll probably see most of your friends the first or second time, after that, you’ll probably see less and less of extended friend groups. This isn’t a bad thing! You’ll find that people change when they go to school (even if all of you go to the same school!) and really grow into themselves, so things that bonded you in high school may no longer be relevant to you.
The best part is that after a certain point, your friends from home and your friends from Brown will probably mix- if you’re from somewhere close to a big city like New York City, Boston, DC, or San Fransisco, its likely that Brown friends will head there for long weekends, internships, or go home for the holidays with someone you know (or friends will make a point of going home with you for fun events like New Year’s Eve). Plus, your friends can come to Brown for events like Spring Weekend or long weekends, which is also great. Mixing friends from home and friends from Brown is a great way to grow your friend group and for all of you to have a great time.
One of my favorite memories from my time at Brown was when my best friend from Nashville (she attends NYU) came up to Providence and we road tripped with friends to Montreal, Canada. It was so fun, and the drive wasn’t boring at all, since everyone was still getting to know each other and had plenty to discuss.
So, long story short, if you try hard enough and are both invested, keeping up isn’t hard at all!
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